Internet Drama: How to Get Over It

Internet Drama: How to Get Over It

Internet Drama

It was last June, as a new blogger, that I began to notice the phrase ‘blogger drama’. Being new on the scene, I was pretty baffled. I struggled to grasp what about being a blogger could be so dramatic. Fast-forward to the present day and unfortunately, I’ve become a little more savvy. You’re probably pretty savvy too, otherwise, why would you be here?

I’ll begin by saying that as a blogger, I’ve found Twitter to be one of the best and most useful social media sites. Through it I’ve made connections with brands and bloggers. I’ve found a great deal of amazing, inspiring content, and if that wasn’t enough, I have also utilised it to drive traffic back to my own blog. Despite its many benefits, one of Twitter’s best and worst qualities is its abundance and diversity of opinions. Surely though, that isn’t Twitter’s fault? Twitter enables millions of users to follow like-minded content, to tweet feelings and experiences and stories and opinions. How we use that freedom is entirely up to ourselves as users.

Internet drama

My Experience

Thankfully, almost a year into my blogging journey I’ve managed to successfully avoid all direct ‘blogger drama’. I haven’t managed, however, to avoid all drama. Whether you’re a blogger or not, there are people sitting in their online bubble who possess Twitter accounts seemingly for the sole purpose of causing arguments. It doesn’t matter how uncontroversial you may think your tweet is, these strange and damaged people (or possibly bots, I don’t know how those things work) who arguably enjoy challenging themselves to find a flaw or offence in order to shit on both your tweet and your day.

It may come as a surprise to you to learn that I’m not perfect. Although I’d love to preach this lesson in a concise manner, maybe via a meaningful (and unoriginal) one-liner like; ‘turn the other cheek’, it would make me a hypocrite. It would also turn this into a rather short and boring post. I admit that in the past I’ve allowed myself to be dragged into an argument. All because (someone who didn’t even follow me) had an issue with one of my pro-environmentally friendly tweets. I mean, clearly, this guy hates the whole world. I’ve since reflected and concluded that arguing with a stranger online is a bad idea. It not only caused my blood pressure to rocket, it was also an absolute waste of MY time.

Internet drama

If you’ve been involved in any kind of online drama (which is very likely if you’re reading this post), then you may or may not have come to the same conclusion as I did. IT’S JUST NOT WORTH IT.

How to Avoid It

I don’t even follow some of the accounts that seem to constantly be in the midst of the (usually blogger) drama. However thanks to Twitter showing me the ‘likes’ of the people I follow, it manages to spread much like a plague (or at least a pretty nasty cold) into my view. Trust me, I know how tempting it is to click onto the thread and read the hundreds of tweets. All of which have been furiously typed by different users who decided to allocate their time and energy into unnecessarily involving themselves. I don’t know, maybe some of these people think that they have good reasons. Maybe they’re defending a friend who posted a seemingly innocent tweet that an unfortunate, clearly bored person has started a witch-hunt against.

If you’re the unfortunate, clearly bored person who has caused the drama in the first place, then you need more help than this post. Consider whether you’d have the audacity to go up to a stranger and speak those words to their face. If you would, then you’d be better off reading a post like ‘how to be a nicer person’. I guess we’ve already established that you don’t allocate your time well.

Twitter is not high school. There is absolutely no need for bitchy comments and judgmental people that think they’re better than you because they’re vegan or skinnier* or have a higher follower count etc. Once you have noticed said drama, I’d advise you to follow either of these two options:

  1. Scroll past it and carry on with your day! (have a good one)
  2. Take action! Find out whether you follow any of these unnecessarily negative nelly’s and click UNFOLLOW. If you don’t follow them, then head over to their account and click ‘mute’. Unless you have a serious and direct issue with someone then I wouldn’t advise that you click ‘block’. This can just cause even further drama (when they find out that you’ve blocked them).

If the drama has come directly to your virtual doorstep, then I’d advise you to reconsider your tweet. Is it possible that you wrote it in a hurry or a temper. You may not have realised that it could come across as offensive? If so, delete it, apologize and move on. (It’s probably not the case, but its worth a second thought.)
If you stand by your tweet, then follow the steps outlined above. Either simply ignore the negative replies or click ‘mute’!

None of this is groundbreaking advice. However if like me, you needed a little self-reflection and encouragement to leave that drama alone, then I hope I’ve helped! Next time you ignore negativity then grab yourself a beverage and take a small moment to congratulate yourself on GETTING OVER IT. You can now spend your precious time on more productive and enjoyable things.

*I have nothing against vegans or skinny girls. These were used purely as (hopefully comedic) examples so please don’t start any blogger drama over here!

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38 Comments

  1. April 26, 2018 / 6:21 pm

    Yess! I totally agree! Twitter can be both a source of positivity and negativity at the same time. Thankfully I’ve avoided all the big blogger drama. Like you say, scroll past and carry on with your day is always the best thing to do. Fab advice Sophie 💖 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

  2. Creative Nails
    April 26, 2018 / 6:39 pm

    Oh my god, yes! I usually don’t really see it either, but sometimes someone will like a tweet and it will come on my feed and I’ll read it and just think “why?” Luckily I’ve avoided all drama so far while blogging and I hope to keep it that way haha. Great post!

    Amy,
    https://creativenails.uk

  3. April 26, 2018 / 6:39 pm

    1000% agree with this post! I LOVE twitter. It’s sooo useful, but it can also be full of drama! I do try my best to stay away from it also. But you always see it on the newsfeed! Love this post Xxx

  4. April 26, 2018 / 6:51 pm

    I completely agree, there are too many people who roam social media looking for a fight, it is definitely not worth the oxygen conversing with these people no matter how idiotic their comments are

  5. Lisa's Notebook
    April 26, 2018 / 10:10 pm

    Like you, I’ve managed to scroll past a lot of blogger drama without ever getting involved. It’s not worth it. Years ago I sent an email which was misinterpreted and caused a fair bit of aggro. Ever since then, I’ve tried very hard to proof anything I tweet, just in case. If I’m not sure, I don’t tweet. Some might see that as censorship, I just see it as being careful. Fab post and advice, Sophie, thank you! X

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

  6. April 26, 2018 / 10:20 pm

    I 100% agree with every word here. It’s one of the things I dislike the most about Twitter, the fact it feels the need to tell you what other people are liking or involved in. I’ve never been involved in any blogger drama either but I feel like that silly notification never fails at filling you in anyway. You’re so right, it’s unnecessary. It’s also very easy to keep scrolling. This was a great read x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

  7. April 27, 2018 / 12:50 am

    I completely agree with this! Twitter can both be positive and negative, and it’s really entirely up to you how to use it! I’ve witnessed a lot of blogger drama on my feed and unless it affects me personally – I just scroll through. No need to ruin my experience on the site you know?

  8. April 27, 2018 / 1:11 am

    Love this post and I completely agree, I feel like internet drama isn’t something anyone needs in their life as it’s so unnecessary and negative!

  9. April 27, 2018 / 5:26 am

    I’m glad you’ve avoided a lot of blogger drama! We’re mostly grown adults, can’t we just act like one? It’s so not cool when people are just on Twitter trolling and starting crap. If someone doesn’t like other people, how about unfollow them and move on? Glad you’re addressing this :).

    exquisitely.me

  10. April 27, 2018 / 9:49 am

    OMG I feel like I read this at the perfect time. I’ve just finished taking a three-day break from Twitter as I just couldn’t hack all the drama. And I’m never even part of said drama but it ends up on my TL anyways. Being able to see tweets that people you follow ‘like’ or tweets from people they follow makes it easier to see different opinions. It’s so easy to scroll through a thread I find stupid and get heated but as you said it’s really not worth it. ‘Scroll and keep it moving’ (or Retweet if I agree with a counterargument ) has always been my Twitter mantra. I think I need to utilize my ‘mute’ button more often though! xx
    Coco Bella Blog

  11. April 27, 2018 / 3:45 pm

    Thankfully a year and a half into blogging and I haven’t had any direct blogging drama either, but man has there been drama in the last year. I don’t mind reading it, I find it shocking and sometimes keeps you in the loop. I have never involved myself by tweeting/subtweeting either. Great post!

    Melina | http://www.melinaelisa.com

  12. April 27, 2018 / 5:05 pm

    There’s so much drama in the blogosphere nowadays! I remember starting out a few years ago and not seeing any negativity. But I agree with you, it’s better not to engage because it makes it so much worse. Though I’m not going to lie, sometimes I live for the drama haha. But generally online drama is not fun at all xx

  13. April 27, 2018 / 6:22 pm

    Couldn’t agree more! I love Twitter for so many reasons, and whilst I’ve never been directly involved in any drama, it’s hard to avoid seeing any on there!

  14. April 27, 2018 / 8:42 pm

    Twitter can be a minefield for drama I swear, I always seem to miss it and just hear small bits after and get a bit what’s happened this time?

    I love the blogging community, but there always seems to be something going on!

  15. April 27, 2018 / 9:12 pm

    So many people need to read this post so they understand how unwanted and unnecessary blogger drama really is. I think perhaps two, or three times a week I see some form of drama on Twitter and it does nothing to me now other than make me roll my eyes and scroll through the app quicker. As for people causing drama, they get a much needed unfollow from me!

    Carly xx // http://www.prettystyleofliving.wordpress.com

  16. April 27, 2018 / 9:15 pm

    I totally agree with you! Some people are just looking to create negativity and drama and by playing their game, you are just letting them win! Best thing is to ignore and move on (obviously not all situations). Love the tips you have given! xx

  17. April 28, 2018 / 9:24 am

    Some people use negativity or “blogger drama” should I say as a way to stay relevant. Thank God for the mute button on Twitter or the old block and unblock trick so they no longer follow you and you no longer follow them either

    Fran | http://www.franciscarockey.co.uk

  18. April 29, 2018 / 9:54 am

    So very relevant post with wonderful tips. Twitter has a lot of support for bloggers but as you say the ‘blogger drama’ is also there. Thankfully I have till date avoided it by scrolling past, that’s the best way to go about it.

    Disa
    https://dynamicphilosophies.com

  19. April 29, 2018 / 11:44 am

    There seems to be so much drama in the blogging world recently. I think one of the most valuable tool as a blogger on twitter is the block/report button.
    If you see anything particularly abusive then reporting them will not only help you avoid it but also help the victim of the abuse. Don’t be afraid to unfollow and block.
    It’s so therapeutic removing the toxicity from your timeline.

    Louisa | http://www.loubeeloublogs.co.uk

  20. April 29, 2018 / 12:29 pm

    Twitter is the only place where I see drama and it can be such a blessing and a curse haha!

  21. April 29, 2018 / 2:00 pm

    You’re right. Trying to rise above it and not bite can be hard but in the long run it’s for the best. I always try to take 30 minutes before responding. Gives you time to calm down and rationalise your response. Sometimes you realise it isn’t even worth your time to respond. The mute button on Twitter is your friend too!

  22. April 29, 2018 / 2:28 pm

    Absolutely love this! Twitter is a great platform to promote your blog my traffic increased so much when I started using it and there are so many other supportive bloggers but I do agree that people cause unnecessary drama sometimes! Luckily I’ve managed to avoid it all for now, great post and advice though lovely!

    Jess // foundationsandfairytales.wordpress.com
    xx

  23. April 29, 2018 / 7:21 pm

    You are absolutely right! I have encountered a couple of incidents, first two I did respond, then I learnt, like you say raising my blood pressure and responding it’s just a waste of my time! Some people are just out to argue for argument sake, or I think court controversy for followers and cause drama! Either way I’d rather keep it positive and walk on by xx

  24. April 29, 2018 / 8:35 pm

    I completely agree with you on this subject! Twitter is an amazing platform to help promote your blog but some people can’t help themselves when it comes to ‘blog drama’ I feel people find it necessary to put others down which isn’t what blogging is about! All for the positivity and supporting other bloggers 🙂

    Emma | http://www.lifeofemmax.co.uk

  25. April 29, 2018 / 8:36 pm

    I completely agree with this! Twitter drama can get so ridiculous, sometimes I think people just need to take a step back. It is such a positive, engaging platform but that does bring negatives too. You offered some great advice here Sophie 🙂
    Alys
    https://alysjournals.com/

  26. April 29, 2018 / 8:38 pm

    Great post Sophie! I’m not as active on Twitter as I would like to be because I think it’s such a great platform to connect with people on. But then again, unnecessary online drama can tend to put me off. I think all the points you made in this post are completely true! Love the tips as well! Simple but definitely effective!

  27. April 29, 2018 / 8:46 pm

    Twitter can be so exhausting some times. Like anything can offend anyone for no reason, making it not as enjoyable as it should be. Also sometimes you see an injustice turned into a drama but you’re too afraid to get involved because you don’t want everyone to turn against you. Also, drama is not specific to the internet or blogging. It is in every single industry

  28. April 29, 2018 / 9:29 pm

    Oh gosh blogger drama stresses me out and I’ve never once been a part of it publicly. I did however have a woman message me recently about a Facebook blogger group I c0-run and bite my head off because she posted 11 of her (admittedly rather strange) blog links within a couple of hours and someone complained she was spamming the group. I ended up having no choice but to block her as I was nothing but civil and nice and she was one of the most nasty and condescending people I’ve ever spoken to, despite me doing nothing wrong! It’s crazy the type of people you come across on the internet and quite scary too sometimes as keyboard warriors can say some bloody horrid things. I’ll always do my best to stay out of it, I’m too old for this shit!
    Alice Xx
    http://www.blacktulipbeauty.co.uk

  29. April 29, 2018 / 10:01 pm

    I’m still a pretty new blogger so thankfully haven’t been involved yet! But I have definitely seen this happen already and I think it is such a shame! I always scroll past mainly because i’m training to become a doctor and don’t want anything from online to be thrown against me! But it can be so difficult sometimes when people can say such horrible things!

  30. April 29, 2018 / 10:27 pm

    Some great advice for a blogger just starting out in the blogging community 🙌🏻 It’s such a great place to be when there’s no drama xxx

    Rocktailsblog.com

  31. April 30, 2018 / 12:28 am

    I don’t even think drama is kept to twitter, it gets dragged over from instagram and it gets dragged from twitter to instagram! I do agree with everything you say and I definitely feel like some days you could tweet ‘its raining’ and someone would take offence to it!

  32. May 1, 2018 / 7:03 pm

    I totally agree, I try my best to stay out of drama like that. If people get mad, I just walk away from the computer!

  33. May 2, 2018 / 10:09 pm

    the ‘this guy hates the whole world’ comment made me chuckle aha! You’re absolutely right, sometimes I tweet things that aren’t even offensive and there has to be SOMEONE in my mentions finding something to complain about – the best thing is to just ignore them! x

  34. peonycrescent
    June 1, 2018 / 1:18 pm

    Pretty hilarious that people think that causing arguments with people they don’t know and don’t interact at all, will make them happy and get them a fulfilled life.
    I think, staying out of it is the best way to handle such situations. Even if it bothers you, they would just get happier and more provocative by answering them and trying to mute them.
    Such a good post, some real talk is sometimes very necessary.
    xx Hilal | Peonycrescent.com

    • June 1, 2018 / 2:38 pm

      Its very odd isn’t it! I completely agree with you on this Hilal. I’m glad you enjoyed the post and thanks for sharing your own opinions! xx

  35. June 2, 2018 / 2:50 pm

    The MADDEST thing about people being bitchy online is that, do they just FORGET they have an electronic trail? WHAT THEY SAY IS THERE FOREVER AND COULD BE FOUND BY ANYONE AT ANYTIME? Madness! Anyways I find you absolutely hilarious so yeah, fab post and ur a v funny gal x

    http://www.allthegoodblognamesweretaken.com

    • June 3, 2018 / 9:37 am

      I know its absolutely crazy isn’t it! Aw thanks so much Ema x

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